Jack King's recent post Why Scruffy Hospitality Creates Space for Friendship really struck a cord with me. Every single word of it. Especially as we settle into this new house, I'm so grateful for his perspective. Hospitality means own arms and open doors. Nothing else.
"Scruffy hospitality means you’re not waiting for everything in your house to be in order before you host and serve friends in your home. Scruffy hospitality means you hunger more for good conversation and serving a simple meal of what you have, not what you don’t have. Scruffy hospitality means you’re more interested in quality conversation than the impression your home or lawn makes. If we only share meals with friends when we’re excellent, we aren’t truly sharing life together.
Don’t allow a to-do list disqualify you from an evening with people you’re called to love in friendship. Scheduling is hard enough in our world. If it’s eating with kind, welcoming people in a less than perfect house versus eating alone, what do you think someone would choose? We tell our guests ‘come as you are,’ perhaps we should tell ourselves ‘host as you are.’"In this spirit, we hosted a small cookout on Friday. Our guests came, with toddlers in tow. We ate Costco-made food on paper plates in an 'as is' house and the kids played in an un-mowed yard. It was wonderful! Nothing makes a place feel more like home than being able to invite friends in.